Do you know what toxic positivity is?

Nowadays, the positive, optimistic mindset is widely spread, and its role is undeniable for our healthy psychological functioning. However, we cannot ignore the fact that increasingly more cases occur where positivity becomes excessive, and in certain life situations, it causes more harm than it helps. The difference between healthy optimism and toxic positivity can be identified in that optimistic individuals trust in positive outcomes but still view situations realistically and do not reject negative emotions. We discussed this phenomenon in the interview below:

One of the key dangers of toxic positivity is that it leads to the suppression of negative emotions, which we know from research to have adverse effects on our mental health. Suppressing emotions can increase stress levels, as repressed emotions can cause internal tension, and prolonged suppression can contribute to the development of illnesses such as depression or anxiety. In addition, toxic positivity can lead to relationship problems, isolation, and a sense of shame.

To avoid toxic positivity, it's important to reflect on our own feelings and address negative emotions, even if they seem uncomfortable and difficult at first. If we sense that a loved one is going through a tough time and we want to help, we should avoid forcedly positive, clichéd statements and ensure we validate their feelings, even if they are negative. Be empathetic and supportive, instead of using phrases like "It could be worse" or "Just let it go", try using statements such as "I understand that this situation is overwhelming for you. How can I help you feel better?"

Keep in mind that life is not just about happy moments, and that's okay. True strength lies in honestly facing our emotions and allowing ourselves and others to experience all feelings.